A Good Talk with Your Inner Child Using SoulCollage®

Do you ever have the thought, "who would want me?" Chances are your quiet, inner child is at the wheel in your life.

It is essential to respectfully connect with the quiet, inner child that resides within all of us.

Langston Kahn, author of "Radical Transformation," offers insight into how to do this through self-inquiry.

When we first encounter the shy parts of ourselves, we often find that we know very little about them.

Perhaps we only have a vague feeling or an unfocused image of this younger version of ourselves. It is important to realize that this shy self has often been ignored or suppressed for a long time.

It often originated in situations where we withdrew and became quiet to survive in a world that overwhelmed us, or because that was how we received the most love.

The quiet child yearns to be heard and seen, to finally have a voice. We often judge ourselves and the parts that don't really serve us (we think), so we suppress them deeply.

But parts that we suppress surface at inconvenient moments. You then don't follow your heart, your dreams, because they are still living from their fears.

How to talk to your quiet, insecure child ...

Here are some questions and steps you can consider to understand and heal the fear or reluctance of the quiet part of yourself:

• Can you show me why you feel this way?
• Who are you at this age?
• What are you trying to achieve with this behavior?
• What would happen if you let go of this function?
• How does this behavior help you now in adult life?
• Is this behavior still necessary, or is there another way to achieve the same thing?
• What would you have wanted to happen back then? Imagine that.
• What does this part of you need? Give it what it needs, from your heart.

In my own experience and in my work with others, I have noticed that these parts of ourselves are often a bit timid, and sometimes even angry about being ignored for so long.

Using SoulCollage® for connection and healing with your inner child

If you are familiar with the chakras, you know that the throat chakra is a powerful energy center for self-expression and communication.

Here you can find your wounded, quiet child, that part of us that dared not speak up and lost its voice in moments of vulnerability.

When we try to directly remove the fear or discomfort of this shy child, without first understanding what it feels and why, we risk crossing the same boundaries as the adults or influences that once caused this silence.

SoulCollage® is very well suited for connecting with and listening to your quiet child. SoulCollage® provides more self-insight, self-love, and creates more inner balance.

The inner child is one of the inner parts that you make visible through SoulCollage®. Within the groups of SoulCollage®, this falls under the Committee group: the cards that help you recognize, understand, and approach different aspects of yourself with more attention and gentleness.

Create a SoulCollage® card for your quiet inner child

By creating and interpreting a SoulCollage® card, you can become aware of how these old wounds still influence our current communication and self-expression.

You too can create a SoulCollage® card about this part of yourself. Use images that resonate with this part of you, images that express silence, reticence, and perhaps also the pain of not being heard.

Then take the time to work with this card, hear its voice, and feel what this quiet child wants to tell you. Here you can use the "I-am-the-one-who" process of the SoulCollage® method.

👉 When you find that you want to create and work with cards more often, it can be helpful to make this process a regular part of your routine. In the SoulCollage® Studio, you get the space to work with your cards monthly and continue to follow your own process in a calm and deepening way.